Putting out the Fleece, Part 6: Listen to your Friends

So, you’re facing a major life decision, and you’re nearly at the fork in the road. Time for contemplating is past, and the decision must be made. Your options seem equally attractive. Either could arguably be a choice with which God will be pleased.

You are trusting God’s good heart toward you (guidance principle #1 we discussed several weeks ago). You are resting in God’s sovereignty (principle #2). You have been working hard at becoming the kind of person God can guide through growth in Christlikeness (principle #3). You are living a life marked by obedience, walking in the light you’ve already been shown from the Scriptures (principle #4).

Yet still you’re unsure. Now what? Well, there is another resource God has placed in your life, one you may have overlooked. That resource is the wise counsel of your family, your friends and fellow believers.

Notice, I said wise counsel. Not every friend is wise, and not all counsel is wise, so this requires discernment. I’m talking about listening to the friends who, like you, are working hard at becoming God’s kind of person. They are searching the Scriptures daily. When they talk, the Bible comes out. They, like you, are deeply committed to making choices which glorify God and move toward God’s ultimate goal for us (Rom. 8:29).

Study the “one another” texts in the New Testament, and you’ll come away impressed with how involved believers should be in one another’s lives. We are to counsel one another (Rom. 15:14), to teach and admonish one another (Col. 3:16), to exhort one another (Heb. 10:24-25), and to bear one another’s burdens (Gal. 6:2).

God’s people shouldn’t make major life decisions in the privacy of their closet, even if their Bible is open! God has given us to each other, and we need each other. So thank God for your wise friends, actively seek their perspective, and listen to them. They are just one of the resources through which God will make plain the path ahead of you.

“Without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed.” Prov. 15:22

“Where there is no guidance a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.” Prov. 11:14

“Plans are established by counsel; by wise guidance wage war.” Prov. 20:18

About Sam Harbin
I am the President of Calvary Baptist Seminary in Lansdale, PA as well as the Chair and Professor of Pastoral Theology.

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